Joseph Oren Harper

1964 - 2002

Messages

  1. Happy New Year

    Happy New Year, it is so cold today and the New Year’s weeked was damp, cold, dark and ugly. Got news that Bud a member of the church died, he was so wonderful, hope his younger lover can deal with the death. Cannot go to the funeral.
    Until we meet again.

    Papi

  2. Touching base

    Hello, xmas is behind us, new years is coming. Xmas was OK, it did not seem like a holiday. Have been feeling depressed, wish I had some happiness. Lisa has had knee operation, long recovery. Christine is alright and so is Fran. Had not heard from anyone in the church.

    papi

  3. Touching base

    Joe; Christine MBA ceremony is Monday, we are having a celebration for her on Sunday. Xmas is around the corner, will not put up Catherine stocking this year, will hand her Xmas orament, will look for Toonsis and Simon’s and Connie’s as well. Living day to day, not much happiness. My friend Rick is sick with kidney failure he is going on dialysis,will monitor situation. Have heard nothing from FMCC members, may go to their Xmas celebration. Do miss you. Take care Papi

    Papi

  4. Touching base

    Hello Joe Halloween past sad and Thanksgiving is coming, going to my sister’s, Xmas around the corner. Miss you and the rest of the family. Nothing is new, Christine completes her MBA is less than three weeks will hold a party for her. Until we meet in heaven.
    Papi

    Papi

  5. Touching base

    Dearest Papi:Halloween is around the corner, remember the big deal you made of this holiday. Have some of your decorations out there with others I have brought. Next week with be Connie’s anniversary so many years have passed. Have not heard from Robert Joye in years, the same with Kip, Mike, Martha, and the others. Days are long and lonely. The girls have two new kittens – one of them Connie is just like Catherine. Pride is comming up may attend.
    Carlos

    Papi

  6. Touching base

    Papi:It been a while since I last was on your site. Catherine is in Heaven with you, Toonsis,Simon and Connie. My sister died last week and I miss her so much. I am so lonely. Wish you were still alive. Christine graduates in December. Have not heard from anyone who was in our circle of life. Until we meet in heaven.

    Papi

  7. Hello Joe

    Hello Papi.
    Today is your anniversary. Hard to believe it has been so many years since you departed. I miss you so much. Life is hard, I have been unemployed. Lisa is fine and so is Christine. Catherine is her usual tricky self but is healthy. I just exist and try to make it thru the day. I have my diabetic under control. Wish you were here and not in heaven.
    Until God joins
    Papi

    Papi

  8. Hey Joe

    Still not a day goes by that I don’t think of you or make some comment to Andy about you. Andy and I are going on 11 years together. Can you believe it?? I owe it to you for pushing me to go to Knoxville. Shelley is still going strong but she is getting old. We moved to Florida and finally bought a house. I wish you could come and visit and have a few cocktails. There’s some tragic Queens in this town that you would love! I still have City Girl and get her out on occasion to think about the fun we used to have. I haven’t made any new “best” friends since you left us. I hope you are at peace and miss you so much. Love Always, Kip 🙂 P.S. Remember “Debra Smekums”?

    Kip

  9. Hello

    Dearest Joe:It will soon be the anniversary of your passing away. It appears that I am the only person that remembers you. Life is difficult for me, I am lonely. Lisa graduated with her Masters degree, Christine will complete her MBA soon. I do not hear from anyone other than Rick. Catherine is getting old but still smart and active. I have a new cat – Precious- beautiful but not very bright similiar to Toonses. I still cannot get over my anger at myslef and you about your false life to your family and the fact that your family especially your aunt, cousin, and grandma did not want to acknowledge your life and the fact that your step mother abuse you and your brothers but public appearance was more important than your mental and physical health.
    Take care
    Papi

    Papi

  10. Touching base

    Hey Joseph:Today is a strange day. I have been thinking about you lately. The days are long and lonely. I have not much joy or laughter, miss talking to you.
    Wish you were here. Hope things are well with you,Simon, Toonses and Connie in heaven. Until we meet.
    papi

    Papi

  11. Happy New Year

    Hey Papi:
    It is the New Year and things are lonely. I had a good Christmas, brought Fran and the girls lots of stuff, Catherine and Cliff got spoiled as well. I am hoping the New Year brings a better life and comfort. Take care and you are in my prayers.

    Papi

  12. Touching base

    Hello Papi:
    Really need you today. I hope you cannot read my thoughts. Cannot continue, need relief. Until we meet
    Papi

    Papi

  13. Thinking of you

    Hello Papi:It has been a while since I wrote to you. Life lately has been very lonely. Miss you. I am making it thru life just one day at a time. Don’t have anyone really keeping in touch with me from our life so I am so isolated. The girls are doing great. Catherine is doing fine for her age. The church as grown but 99% of the people we knew are no longer there. Halloween is coming up and I remember how much that holiday meant to you. I am sure you are dressing up in heaven for Halloween .
    Until God call me
    Papi

    Papi

  14. Another year

    Dearest Joe
    Happy Anniversary in Heaven

    papi

  15. Happy Anniversary

    Dear Joe: Tomorrow marks your anniversary, hard to believe you are gone. Hope others remember the day. Today is Pride and Atlanta is jumping, remember when we went with the church and with friends. I truely miss you, feel your absence. I thnk I have developed diabetics along wtih other illnesses. PapI I am so lonely, the church has changes and I no longer go. Wish I had more to say but other than I truely miss you I cannot write more.
    Untile we meet in heaven, rest with the angels.
    Love ya
    Papi.

    Papi

  16. Hello Papi

    Dearest Papi:
    It been a long long time since I wrote to you. Life has been difficult because I have been laid off, looking for a job is hell. I am feeling my age, the gray hair is coming in. I have lost weight, don’t have much hunger. Love my daughters, Lisa and Christine are my joy. Lisa is going to grad school and so is Christine. Robert Joye has brought a house but he does not make any effort to keep in touch. Martha writes once every six months, don’t hear from Austin, Bentley or Randy. Miss you so much, don’t go to church anymore.
    Catherine and Cliff are a trip. I keep you in my prayers and thoughts.
    Until we meet again
    Papi

    Carlos

  17. long time, I know

    Hi Joe. I know it’s been a long time since I have left you a message here, but you know I talk to you every night. So much has changed since you left. Christine has a home, which she has so wonderfully let me live in with her. I’m in grad school, half way done at this point. No more crappy job for me. I’m 26 now. All grown up. Catherine (along with Cliff) is the center of my world. I love them to pieces. And what hasn’t changed is that I miss you. I wish you were here so badly. I wonder how things would be different is you were still here; if Dad would be happier, we all would be happier. I know I would. Please look over Dad. I worry about him. I just miss you so much. I know you are at peace, and that you don’t have to suffer anymore. I just wish you could be here to laugh and share with. I love you.

    Lisa

  18. Hello

    Dearest Papi:
    Was thinking of you today, Thanksgiving has past and Xmas is around the corner. Put up the Xmas tree and of course had to put up Toonses, Simon and Connie’s ornaments. Remember the excitment you had with Xmas, also the fact the you went to your parents house and pretented/hide our life togeter did not exist. Miss you a great deal, until we meet in heaven.

    Papi

  19. touching base

    Joseph:Seems like forever since you died. Life is lonely, miss you a great deal. Have to deal with so many issues, church is not a haven any longer. Look out for me and have the Lord guide my path and gave me the faith and strength to continue. Until we meet in heaven.

    Papi

  20. Touching Base

    Hi Joe:Yesterday was your anniversary, I did not go on the website because it was too hard. Sent a donation in your name to Project Open Hand which feeds ill and bedridden people. Sent acknowledgement to your family so tey know I will never forget you. I realize that I should have directed my anger at you for not being honest with your family all the time we were together. Your made them think so many wrong ideas about yourself, your denied me, yourslef and our relationship. I am slowly getting a life. Well take care in heaven until we meet again. I wonder how many friends remembered what yesterday was?

    Papi

  21. Hello

    Dearest Papi:
    Soon it will be your anniversary, miss you so much. Wish you were here. Wish I could say I am happy but I am not. Until we meet in heaven.

    Anonymous

  22. Hello Papi

    Good morning:
    I miss you today so much today. Feeling depressed wish you were here to speak with.
    Take care

    Anonymous

  23. Hello

    Hello Papi:The day is overcast, cool and raining. Miss you a grea deal. Having a hard time with church, also do not have many contacts to speak with. It will be your anniversary soon, miss you a grea deal. Thinking of Robert, Simon and Toonses, miss them also. Again, miss you a great deal.

    Papi

  24. Hello

    Dear Jospeh:
    Happy St. Patrick’s Day, hope you remember this day. It is beautiful today but I am lonely, do not hear from anyone. I am feeling my age wish you were here. Catherine is spoiled by the girls, you would so proud of Lisa and Christine. I know you are watching over them. The church has changed, miss you so much. Pray and watach over me and the family.
    Until we meet again.

    Papi

  25. Hello

    Dearest Papi:
    Christmas is over and so is New Year’s. It has been lonely without you. I remember how ill you were at this time just before your death. I really do not hear from people. I feel old now and lonely. Wish you were here to speak and be with.
    The church has grown but the congregation has changed so much so it is not home to me. The girls and Fran are doing great. I have not heard from Rebecca much, I do hear from Robert from time to time. Watch over me and the family until God unites us.

    Papi

  26. Touching base

    Dearest Joseph:It has been a while since my last message. Thanksgiving has gone and Christmas is around the corner. I put up the AIDS oraments as well as Simon, Tootsis oranment and the Octapus Connie gave me. Christmas is not the same without you guys. Today it is cold, overcast and gloomy. I miss you so much. The church will have the Xmas play and silent auction, I am not into it just as I am not into the service anymore. Till me meet in heaven.
    Your Papi.

    Pai

  27. Need to speak with you

    Dearest Joe: Wish you were here to speak with, I am lonely and depressed. Christine has brought a house, she is a home owner. It is a nice townhouse big enought for her needs. Lisa is with her as well as Catherine and Cliff. She cried wishing you were here to see the house and be part of her joy. The church has changed so much, few people are there that where there when we joined. This Sunday is AIDS Day, I might walk with the church group. Lisa passed the underwriters test she is doing well. Connie’s anniversary is coming up, I will be in St. Paul so I cannot be with Robert Joye. Well take care until we meet again, give Connie, Simon and Toonses my love
    Until we meet again

    Papi

  28. Good morning

    Good morning Papi, how are things in Heaven? I was wondering if your family was hurt by Hurricane Kathrina? I wish you were here to speak with, miss you a great deal. Christine is buying a house, yes she will be a homeowner soon. Lisa is going to grad school. Catherine is fatter and more demanding than ever. Don’t get much communication from Rebecca or Robert or anyone in the church. Well take care. Until we meet in heaven.

    Papi

  29. Good Morning

    Good morning Joe, how are things in Heaven? How is Connie, Simon, Toonsis? Joe I am lonely, feel isolated and old. Wish you were here to speak with and fuss at. Miss your company, miss the old church days, and our friends. Need to get back into a gym, running and having a life.
    Until we meet in heave, rest with the angels.

    Papi

  30. Touching base

    Good morning in heaven: Wish you were here to speak to, I am feeling depressed, old and isolated. Hard to believe you have been gone so long and your memory seems so real to me. I need to talk but there is no one that I can express my thoughts, feelings and emotions to. Christine has applied for a mortgage to buy a house, Lisa will go back for a graduate degree. I am doing OK. Really do not hear from anyone especially some of the “friends” we had when you were alive. Played a tape made for you from the Heretic – Don’t Cry for me Argentina, brought back happy memories. Well take care until we meet in heave.
    PS Catherine is fat and spoiled.

    Papi

  31. Touching Base

    Dearest Joe: Went to see “Angels in America” Saturday and Sunday. It is so scary how the play and our lives are so similiar. Today it is cool and rainy, seems it being raining so much lately. I truely miss you. Wish you were here to speak with. Well take care until we meet again.

    Papi

  32. Touching base

    Joseph:Took out the Foreman Grill and remembered making stuff on it for you. My birthday is coming soon, miss your excitement on this day. Pull out an old Heretic tape of yours – listening to remake of “Don’t Cry For Me Argentina” made me cry, miss the Heretic days. Really don’t have anyone to talk to. Have purchased running shoes and will begin running again. Joseph I am still in the grieving process over your life and death. Until we meet again. “After a time I will miss, miss missing you”.
    Love ya,

    Papi

  33. Thinking of you

    Dearest Joe: The day is wet from the hurrican, and it is dark. Wish you were here to speak with, need to talk and unload. Troy Perry came to the church and preached, he will retire. He and his lover got married in Canada and Vermont, many states and religions are saying gays have the right to marriage, yet there are church’s, politicans and others that say gays to not have that right or other rights that convicted killers have. Troy has great. I am feeling old, my gray hairs are showing and time seems so short and so long for me. I will work on your AIDS quilt and hope to have it completed by Halloween – your holiday. Until we meet in heaven, take care and play Cher for me and the angels.

    Papi

  34. It been three years

    Dearest Joe: Tonight will be hard I hope I can sleep and not dwell on your death. Hard to believe it been so many years. I still miss you so much. When I left you that night I knew you would not make it another night. I remember holding you, promising I would not leave you until you were asleep and I stay. The call from your parents that night ended our lives together. Papi I loved you but I wish you had been more honest with your family. I still have not forgiven your evil stepmother for the pain she caused you and me. Your father, grandmother, brothers and sister, aunt and cousin also lied. They have never acknowledged your website or our relationship. You meant so much to me and I will forever keep you in my heart. I will never forget you.

    Papi

  35. Touching base

    Dearest Papi:This Sunday will be your next anniversary and it is also Pride here in Atlanta. Remember so many Pride events with you and the church. I will not go this year. I am lonely without you and miss you so much. Catherine is now a pig but she has become Fran’s cat for some reason. Life is so difficult without you, Robert and the pets. You would be so proud of me Papi I have maintain the weight loss I had with you as well as the muscles. I will be 56 soon and time is heavy on my body, mind and spirit. The church members have changed so much less than 15 people are there from when we attended the church. Keep me in your protection under we meet again.
    Love ya.

    Papi

  36. What's up Joe?

    Hey Joe,Sorry I haven’t written in a while. That doesn’t mean I don’t think about you everyday. I talk to Andy about you all the time. I will never find another friend like you. I will never laugh the way I did when you were around. All that aside, guess what? We moved to Florida. We are living in a small town near Clearwater, FL. Can you believe it? Wish you could come visit. Things have changed so much in the last few years. Andy, Shelley, Peggy and Patsy are all doing fine.
    Take care,
    Kip

    Kip

  37. Touching base

    Dearest Joe: Easter has come and gone, Xine turned 30, she had a great surprise party. The church is different, I am lonely,have no one to speak with. Think of you, Robert, Simon and Toonses often. Catherine is fat and spoiled. Xine cried for you the other day. Your anniversary is coming up, will remember you. Sleep with the angels.

    Papi

  38. Wanted to speak with you

    Dearest Joe:Easter will be here soon. Christine turns 30. The church is so different, so few people I speak with. The days are long and empty. Still working out my feelings. Wish you were here to speak with. Miss you greatly.

    Papi

  39. Touching base

    Joseph: Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. I miss you so much. Had a good xmas got gift cards. Lisa gave me an Aids ornament this year and I cried. Put Tootnes and Simon piece up on tree. New Years was at a neighbor’s house, enjoyed it cried on New Years Day remembering you and others. Time has not made your memory any less painful, hope you are well in Heaven. Joseph, have anger with you yet the love is still there for you and will be there always.

    Papi

  40. hello

    Dearest Joesph:Today is World’s Aids Day, miss you, will not forget you, someday there will be a cure, it will come to late for you but for others it will end their misery. Take care
    Love Papi

    papi

  41. Missing You

    Joseph:, God I miss you so much. Halloween has come and gone and I put out your favorite decorations again. Remembered how much it meant to you and how much fun we had dressing up. Life is hard without you to make me laugh, miss cooking for you and some many other things. Miss you ‘all Connie, Toonses and Simon. Catherine has gotten fatter and I hold her and remember how much she meant to you and now she comforts me. If you saw the inside of FMCC you would be so proud. I have gone on with my life but you will always be a wonderful part of it, thanks for teaching me the importance of being open and honest free of the guilt you carried, you were never free and honest with your family. I miss you someday I know we will meet again in heaven, until then, watch over me and thank you for being in my life.

    Papi

  42. Labor Day

    Hello Papi, I miss you. Yesterday was the Fashion Show at the church, had an exciting time, I was thinking of you as I walked the runway. Christine said you hid my clothes so no one would see my body. You would love how the interior of the church looks like. Catherine is a trip, she know when I am depressed and demands attention. Well let me go, just had to say hi, love ya.

    Papi

  43. Aug 16

    Hey Joe, Today is my birthday, if you were here I amsure that you would have gone something special for me. The girls and Fran got me great gifts relating to my gym. I am getting ito it hope to be buff soon. Catherine and now Cliff are the center of our universe. Miss you so much. love

    Papi

  44. Hello

    Hey there Joe, how are things in Heaven, how is Simon, Toonses and Robert. Have news for you, the girls got a new male cat- “Cliff” short for Heathcliff. All black, young, full of energy and playful. Catherine and he fight and play all day. Catherine is still the “bitch”, miss you today and everyday.

    Papi

  45. Two years ago

    Papi – It has been two years and your memory, love and laughter are still with me. Time has soften the pain but not the emptyness. Wish you were here to bring joy, music and adventure to my life. Others may forget you and your life but I never will. Reest wtih the angels until we meet again. PS Catherine is still the same. Give my lost to Toonses, Simon and Connie.

    Papi

  46. Remembering you

    In loving memory of Joe:
    A full moon poised above the sea
    Makes the face of heaven radiant
    And brings to hearts that are apart
    The poignant pensiveness of night
    I blow out my candle but it is just as bright here
    I put on a coat but it is just as cold
    So I can only read my message to the moon
    As I lay me down and long for dreams of you.
    -Chang Chui-Ling

    Rebecca

  47. Touching base

    Dearest Joe:
    It will be the second anniversary of your departure. Things are OK with me and the family. I will have your quilt made shortly, it will reflect your life and love of life. Hope others will remember your day. Until we meet in heaven.

    Papi

  48. Miss you

    Dearest Joseph: Today is especially cold with the wind and rain. Easter was good – it was a great play and the church was packed, saw so many people who had no been to church for a while. Life is difficult and stressful. Have come to the realization that I am old and not prepared for old age. Wish you were here to speak with, miss you.
    Until God reunites us,

    Anonymous

  49. Happy Birthday

    Joe:
    We remembered your birthday. The girls brought a small chocolate cake, we put a candle on it- sang Happy Birthday. We play Diana Ross – I’m Coming Out – in memory of you. Wish you had been here to have a party for you.
    Celebrate with the angels until we all meet.

    Papi

  50. Need to talk

    Dear Joe: Today is strange, a bit of rain, very windy and cool. Hard to believe spring is to come. Had Christine’s birthday celebration last week and on her birthday Biff sent me a photo of you at a birthday celebration from some one at the church, guess it was your way of showing us that you would always be there for us. Wish I could make things earier for Lisa she hates her job and of course the job market sucks. I feel a stranger at church with so many new faces and the departure of the people who were there when we started. I hope your family remembers your birthday, of course your family here will remember it and have a moment of silence to show our love for you.
    Hope Connie, Simon, Toonses are there with you
    Until we are united by Christ.

    Papi

  51. Hi Joe

    Hey Joe,
    Your birthday’s coming up in a little over a week, and I was thinking about you alot recently. Catherine is spoiled rotten by us, as I’m sure you know. For someone who doesn’t “like” Catharine, Dad sure spends a lot of time talking to her, and giving her the little bit left over from his creamer, etc. Lisa hates her job, so we’re trying to help her find a new one. Otherwise, everything here is rolling along smoothly.
    Going to be 29 in a few days, and it’s hitting me hard. I guess it’s time I thought about growing up, huh?
    Love ya. Xine

    Christine

  52. St. Patrick's Day

    Dearest Papi:Today is St. Patrick’s Day, hope that all are celebrating in Heaven. I am remembering what this day means to me. Can’t say that I am happy, but life goes on. Wish you were here to speak with, having a conversation is a real treat for me these days.
    Hope that others remember you, enjoy heaven until we meet.

    Papi

  53. Thinking of you

    Dearest Joe: Just wanted to talk, St. Patrick’s Day is coming up, and so is your birthday. If you were alive we could celebrate them in style. Life has become so difficult for me, you are aware of the issues in my life. Need someone to share my feelings with and do not have one. Catherine is a mess but Fran and the girls treat her like royality and she eats it up. I do not think that they live without her.
    Will write to you on St. Pat’s Day.

    Papi

  54. Thinking of you

    Dearest Joseph:
    I am in Chattanooga today, it is bright, cool and so nice. There are days like today that I wish I could speak with you. While living with my family is great I am still lonely. How are you doing in heaven, how is Connie, Simon, Toonses? I miss you.

    Papi

  55. Thinking of you

    Dearest Joseph:
    I am in Chattanooga today, it is bright, cool and so nice. There are days like today that I wish I could speak with you. While living with my family is great I am still lonely. How are you doing in heaven, how is Connie, Simon, Toonses? I miss you.

    Papi

  56. Happy Belated Valentine's Day

    Dearest Joseph:
    I thought of you on Valen tine’s day as I gave Fran and the girls (including Catherine) their gifts. I know that you would have gotten them something. I am sure in Heaven you exchanged with the angels. The church will soon be remodeled and the santuary opened from the front door. So many new faces and so many faces that have left. Meet with Robert Joye and we exchanged Xmas gifts, yes Xmas gifts, and traded stories. We have not heard from so many people and we have stopped trying.
    It has been cold, overcast and rainy, cannot wait for spring. Started a new job other than that nothing is new with me. Wish you were still with us.

    Papi

  57. New Year's Day

    Dearest Papi – Today is New Years Eve one year will end and the other will begin. How are things in heaven with Connie, Simon and Toonses? We had a mini family reunion on Staten Island, family grows important as you get older. Strange to see how grown up my nieces/nephews and grand nieces/nephews have gotten. Feeling lonely and depressed watch over us and bless until we meet in heaven.

    Papi

  58. Touching base

    Dearest Papi: It is getting close to Xmas, the trees are up and decorated. I put Simon’s, Tootnes and Connie’s Christmas tree decoration up. Hard to think of Xmas without you and Connie. Had the church Silent Auction and play, it was OK. Thinking of you.

    Papi

  59. Nothing much

    Joe,
    Been thinking about you lately, especially as we get close to the holidays. I remember how over the top you’d get with Xmas gifts for Lisa and I. As the weather gets cooler I’ll use my throw more often, and think of you everytime. So many changes right now. Lisa’s got her first full time job, and because she works for Ford, there’s a good change that she’s going to get an SUV in the near future, although probably not the Explorer she kept asking for throughout college. We’re all working and trying to make it through the holidays. I’m playing a big concert in Chicago this year; you’ll have to listen in. Miss you lots, love you more.
    Christine

    Christine

  60. Touching base

    Dear Joe: Yesterday was the anniversary of Connie’s death. Had dinner with Robert Joye, I know he was taking it hard. We discussed Connie’s life, illness and death. Hard going on with life without the two of you. Took out the photo’s of all of us in Halloween outfits, have your Halloween items out. Halloween will never be the same for Robert or me.
    Miss you

    Papi

  61. Touching base

    Dearest Joe:
    Halloween is coming, remember how much it meant to you. Are you celebrating in heaven, how is Connie and the rest of the gang? Days are growing shorter and cooler, I think you would have decorated with the candles and other Halloween stuff you had. Still having a problem finding peace, church has lost it’s meaning, have few people to speak with. Take care and watch over us

    Papi

  62. Touching base

    Dearest Papi, Yesterday was my birthday, I know that you would have remembered it and we would have celebrated. I am making peace with with you, myself and God. Church is different, it does not really have the same focus, meaning or peace it once had for me. My family and Yvette’s family took me out for lunch, Fran had the grass cut for me, Xine ordered the AJC for me, and Lisa’s gift is on its way. No one else remembered. Hope you, Connie, Simon, Toonses are doing well in Heaven, take care.

    Papi

  63. Email address

    carlos

  64. Carlos, Please leave your email address here so that I can contact you.Thanks,
    Kip

    Kip

  65. Touching base

    Dear Papi – I got a message from your family and it was what I thought they would write. They will never leave a message on your website,they do not care about what the church has done for you. They have a image of you and the family that they do not want to change even if it meant your health. I know that they will never acknowledge your real life, your friends and family here. They deny the abuse of your stepmother and the failure of them to protect you. Rest with the angels until we meet again.

    Papi

  66. Joe,I can’t believe it’s been a year. It still seems like I just haven’t heard from you in a while. It’s been a rough couple of days. Shelley is not doing to well. Your passing has made me appreciate my family a lot more. I miss you and you better believe that I will have City Girl (and the vodka) out tonight. Nobody really knows what happens to us after we die but wherever you are I hope that you are happy.
    Love,
    Kip

    Kip

  67. STILL MISSING YOU

    Hi JOE, Its been one year sence you went to be with the Lord. I still think about you every day and miss you. I feel as you live with me in my heart, and i have a part of you with me! I know you are happy and having a great time, but we all miss you very much LOVE Rany

    randy

  68. Message

    Joe Oren Harper III>
    > A year has passed and we miss you so much. The
    > church has dedicated a
    > large cross, memorial garden and beautiful sconces
    > in your honor. Your
    > name still brings tears to your church family
    > members. The love of your
    > church family grows and your memory will always be
    > honored and cherished.
    >
    > As your pain increased your strength and belief in
    > true Christian love
    > became a testimony to First Metropolitan Community
    > Church’s teaching of
    > Jesus’ words.
    >
    > Wish you were here to speak and joke with, go to
    > movies and rides with.
    > Heaven, we know, is rejoicing and laughing with your
    > antics. We know Simon,
    > Toonces and Robert are there with you.
    >
    > Watch out for us and be there guiding our lives
    > until we meet with you in
    > heaven.
    >
    > Thank you for all the attention, advice, wisdom and
    > love you gave us. Most
    > of all thank you for showing us that love is
    > unconditional, love is
    > race-less, endures all pain, hypocrisy, hate, shame
    > and malice.
    >
    > We know you are at Heaven’s gate welcoming new
    > angels and entertaining the
    > Father with your humor and love.
    >
    > Love you Papi:
    >
    > Lisa, Christine, Frances and Carlos Calderon

    US

  69. remembering you

    Joe, I can’t believe tomorrow will be a year since you passed away. I remember that morning so vividly, and I wish it were all a bad dream. The moment I found out you were gone, I just shut down. I have this problem accepting death with the people I love. Please don’t think that I have forgotten you or that your death has not touched me deeply. I just don’t know how to deal with the fact that you are gone. I pray for you every night and thank God that He placed you in my life, if only for a few short years. I’m so grateful that I had the chance to get to know and love you. You will always be my ‘step-father’ for lack of a better term, and I know that you will always be there for all of the important events in the lives of those who love you here on earth. I can’t believe you’ve been gone a year. I will always cling to your goofy laugh and the way you loved so openly and freely. Thank you for the forever-effect you’ve had on so many people’s lives, especially mine. I love you.

    Lisa

  70. Who would have ever thought I'd be early?

    Joe,
    I know you’re looking down in shock as I actually get something done early for once. Tomorrow is going to be really hard for all of us, and I wanted to make sure I sent you a message. A year’s gone by, and in some ways it was fast and in others it’s been the longest year ever. We miss you every day. I wish I could have 5 more minutes with you here so I could tell you how much you meant to my life. I know you know how much we miss you. Watch over us as we try to remember your life and celebrate the time we all had with you, who was such a bright light in all oru lives. Xine

    Xine

  71. Touching base

    Dearest PapiWas thinking of you today. It is beautiful here in Atlanta but lonely. The day liles are blooming and the grass is so green and tall, remember you loved to cut the grass. I’m dealing with life one day at a time. How are things in heaven? came to the conclusion that your family will never acknowledge your life in Atlanta. Leave us a sign that you are watching over us until we meet again.
    PS – Catherine has taken over the house.

    Papi

  72. Hi Joe. Been thinking about you today. Just walked out to Pearl Butterworths grave on my lunch break. Remember her?? I had a good time that day cutting up with you.
    Kip

    Kip

  73. Lisa's graduation

    Dearest Joe: I know that you were there in spirit but you would have been bsides your self as Lisa graduate yesterday. She got two degrees – a BA in English and a BS in Psych – magna cum laude. Christine and I cried as we saw Lisa walk onto the ceremony grounds, you were there watching. Yesterday we celebrated with cake, snacks. Today we will celebrate at a neighbors house with a buffet. I know you celebrate Mother’s Day with your Mother in heaven. Until we meet again, watch over us.

    Papi

  74. Poem

    I attended a memorial today that had this poem printed in the program and thought it was important to share it with you and your friends:
    “God saw that he was getting tired,
    and a cure was not to be;
    so He put His arms around him
    and whispered, come with me.
    With tearful eyes, in silence,
    we saw him fade away.
    Although we loved him dearly,
    we could not make him stay.
    A golden heart stopped beating;
    hard working hands laid to rest.
    God broke our hearts to prove to us,
    He only takes the best.”

    Christine

  75. Hello

    Dearest Joseph:It has been a while since I wrote. Things are not good here and times are hard. I miss you and so do so many others, wish I could have you here. You could always see the good or positive in everything. Your family still has not left a message on your website. The church is doing well, you would be proud. Your memorial garden looks wonderful. Please look after all the people down here that loved you without shame, fear or conditions. Lisa will graduate with double honors and I know she would have wanted you there at UGA at the ceremony. Kip has stopped writing and communicating, look after Mike and Rebecca. Martha misses you. Have not heard much from Austin.
    Take care

    Papi

  76. saying hi

    Hi Joe. I’ve been thinking about you lately a lot and wanted to drop you a line. I know you are up there in Heaven watching over all of us, and I wanted to thank you for that. When things get really tough and I’m scared about what will happen in our lives, it brings me comfort to know you are up there watching over us and loving us. Just know that we’re loving you right back, always. I love you Joe!

    Lisa

  77. Your birthday

    Joe,
    I didn’t forget your birthday was yesterday. I spent the day at home with Mom, Dad and Lisa, and we went to Spike’s and had the Spike’s Special pizza and Ziti al Diablo in your honor. I miss you very much, and think of you every day. I know you had a great time celebrating yesterday with Robert, Simon and Toonces, but wish I could have celebrated another year with you here. Lisa graduates in a few weeks; can you believe how fast the last four years went?! Watch over us. Until we meet again, love Xine.

    Christine

  78. happy birthday

    Hi Joe, Well it is your birthday, our friend. We love you and wish you were here so that we could celebrate. We see and do so many things that remind us of you. Do you realize how many people you touched and how very much you are loved. Rest well our wonderful friend.

    DD&DJ

  79. Happy Birthday Joe!

    Happy Birthday Joe! Don’t celebrate too hard with God and the angels! Give God a kiss and a hug for me! :-)Love and miss you,
    Clif

    Clif

  80. Happy Birthday

    Dearest Joseph:
    Happy Birthday in heaven. I know you Connie and others are celebrating in heaven with the angels and the Lord. We are going to Spike’s today to celebrate wish you were here so everyone could tell you how much you were loved.
    Again, Happy Birthday until we meet again.

    Papi

  81. Happy Birthday

    Joe I know you are having a wonderful day celebrating the gift of life that God gave you 39 years ago. I know you and Robert are happy. I miss you both. Keep an eye on us until we all meet again. Love Robert

    Robert Joye

  82. Today is 03/17

    Dearest Joseph: Today is 03/17, hard to believe it is another year. The day is cool, raining and depressing. Still having a hard time with church. Wish you were here with me, I know that we would be celebrating the day. Please pray for me and proctect me. Take care of Mike’s cat who joined you in heaven.
    Until we meet in heaven.

    Papi

  83. Missing You

    Dearest Joseph: It has been cold, dark and rainy the last few days. I am suffering major depression for so many reasons. I am reliving your final days from last year and it hurts. I am so tired, depressed, scared and hurt. Church brings me no joy, it is not the same since your death. I know the girls and Fran miss you, Fran cried the other day for you. I cannot go to the places were went to because I miss you so much. I am angry with the letter your Grandma sent me so much denial of your life. I wish you had been much more open with your family. Please keep us under your proctective angel wings. Under Christ reunites us.

    Papi

  84. thinking of you

    Joe, I know it’s been way to long since I’ve emailed you and I apologize for it. All of a sudden I felt like i had to come here and leave you a message. I miss you so much. Ever since this summer things have never felt right. I miss hearing your voice and talking non stop with you and Christine. I’m trying so hard to keep the sound of you talking to me in my head and I don’t ever want to lose that. I miss you so much. The other day I was driving home from Athens and I thought of our trip to see you in LA. I saw your name on the headstone and I still don’t belive that you are there. I drove past the house on friday and I cried. I haven’t been there in months. I’ll probally never go there again, but i had to see it one more time. God I miss you so much. It’s so unfair! I’m so angry. Life is so different now. I miss you Joe. God how much I miss you. I pray for you and Robert and Simon and Toonces every night and I hope that one day I will see you all again. I’m so blessed that you were in my life and hopefully always watching down over me and my family. I just wish you were here. You know that I love you. Please help Dad. I’m concerned for him. Oh God I wish you were here! I love you Joe.

    Lisa

  85. Message

    Dearest Joseph:
    It has been especially hard to live this week for so many reasons. I am reliving the last few weeks of your life thru the illness of a dear friend who will die of cancer soon. She like you is suffering and the pain is too much aS the cancer spreadS throught her body.
    I though that I would be able to move on and enjoy life but I am finding it harder now to deal with your death and my lonilness that in weeks past. I remembered a poem that deals with loss and I am going to write to you.
    I shall miss loving you
    I shall miss the comfort of your embrace
    I shall miss the lonelines of waiting for your calls that will never come.
    I shall miss the joy of your comings and the pain of your going
    and after a time I shall miss
    MISSING LOVING YOU
    Joseph when will I stop missing you?
    Rest with the angels.

    Papi

  86. Touching base

    Dearest Joseph – Happy belated Valentine’s Day. The last few days have ben hell for me – it has been cold, dark and wet. I got laid off, please ask God to help me find another job ASAP. I miss you, Robert, Simon and Toonses. I am dealing with serious depression for so many reasons. Have a hard time in church – the message/the love is not there for me. The interior of the church looks great, attendence is up, the budget is being met. I am dealing with serious depression, isolation, loneliness and more. Wish you were here, your family still has not recognized your life here.
    Take care and pray for us until we meet in heaven and rejoice.

    Papi

  87. Valentine's Day

    Joe,I was just thinking about you and realized I haven’t emailed you in a while. You’re in my thoughts everyday, though. Dad’s doing better, but has his ups and downs. I’m sure you already know, but I think Lisa and Chris are done for good. Better for her in the long run, but of course there’s a lot of pain after being together for 6 years. Mom and I are doing well. Another Valentine’s Day alone for us, but at least we all have one another.
    The trip to West Monroe was long and crazy as any car trip. I just wish I could come by and see you whenever I wanted. Take care. Xine

    Xine

  88. Thinking of you

    Dearest Joseph:Last few weeks I have been thinking of your life and especially last year – you were dealing with pneumonia and depression. Hard to believe that you are gone and not here with those who love you. Sent your Grandma a Valentine’s Day gift in your memory. Wish I could speak wtih you and hold you. Rest in heaven.

    Papi

  89. Thinking of you

    Dearest Joseph:Last Saturday the church had its anniversity dinner, Martha did not want to go,Biff brought her ticket and convinced her to go, telling her that no one knows from one day to the next who will be here tomorrow. I have started on your quilt, have nice photo’s of you, hope it reflects the wonderful person you were. Your family has not acknowledged your departure with any messages on this website. Fran, Lisa and Christine miss you so much. This winter has been brutually cold and dark so your absence is especially missed. Will send your Nanny a Valentine’s Day card in your honor, do not want her to be forgotten. Rest with the angels.

    Papi

  90. Remembering You

    Jose, I have just been able to get into this site. I have thought about you many times and miss hearing from you as you always brought joy and laughter as you checked in with me. I know you are at peace now and please keep that gate to Heaven open for me.

    Chica

  91. Thinking of you

    Joseph, I have been thinking of you since your death. I find comfort and sadness in remembering that you would be at your desk making calls, laughing and spreading joy. I though that I would be less depressed and looking forward to the day but I am still struggling with your departure. I hope that you Robert, Simon, Toonsis are together. Until Christ reunites us, I will remember you.

    Papi

  92. Memories from us

    Joe, We have waited more than six months to send you message. We miss you so. Recently visited N>Y> and saw you everywhere and my how you loved Christmas. We would get so excited right along with you. It is really amaxing how many lives you touched in just a short period of time. And Joe, the shopping in Macy’s N>Y> would have really made you smile. Empty place in our heartts now without you, our Beautiful Friend who is resting with the angels, save a place for both of us,We are keeping in touch with Carlos and we are here for him if he needs us. Our Love Always, DD & DJ

    DD & DJ

  93. Memories from us

    Joe, We have waited more than six months to send you message. We miss you so. Recently visited N>Y> and saw you everywhere and my how you loved Christmas. We would get so excited right along with you. It is really amaxing how many lives you touched in just a short period of time. And Joe, the shopping in Macy’s N>Y> would have really made you smile. Empty place in our heartts now without you, our Beautiful Friend who is resting with the angels, save a place for both of us,We are keeping in touch with Carlos and we are here for him if he needs us. Our Love Always, DD & DJ

    DD & DJ

  94. Memories from us

    Joe, We have waited more than six months to send you message. We miss you so. Recently visited N>Y> and saw you everywhere and my how you loved Christmas. We would get so excited right along with you. It is really amaxing how many lives you touched in just a short period of time. And Joe, the shopping in Macy’s N>Y> would have really made you smile. Empty place in our heartts now without you, our Beautiful Friend who is resting with the angels, save a place for both of us,We are keeping in touch with Carlos and we are here for him if he needs us. Our Love Always, DD & DJ

    DD & DJ

  95. Merry christmas

    Dearest Joseph Today is Christmas Eve, funny it does not seen to be a holiday. Remember having the tree set up and presents under it. Disappointed in our friends few have sent Xmas cards. Your parents and family should have gotten my letter. Will visit your gravesite and bring closure to your life with me and the girls. Hope you are celebrating with Connie, Simon, Toonsis Angels and the Lord.
    Love ya

    Papi

  96. Xmas fundraiser

    Dearest Joe
    Yesterday the church had its Xmas celebration and fund raiser. The Xmas celebration last almost 2 hours. The fundraiser got the church about $2,500.00 dollars. Sent Xmas cards to all your family and asking them if they wanted some of your stuff. Of all the family only Nanny wanted something, but she would want anything associated with you. Take care of Robert, Simon, Tuntses, rest with the angels.

    papi

  97. December 1

    Dearest Joe: Yesterday the church celebrated World Aids day. Paul got about twenty or more ministers, priests and rabbi’s to attend, the service was good. Sat next to Austin. Two women sang a song about the QUILT and the entire congregation lost it. Austin and I cried through the entire service. I am thinking of having a memorial quilt done in your honor. Want to have your smiling pitcure up there – maybe I can put Simon, Toonsis, Makers Mark and City Girl with you, these were things that meant a lot toyou and I think of them and you as one. Xmas seems so without purpose, remember the thrill you got from the day, the tree looks beautiful. Sent your Grandma and Aunt letters from your past. I close on the house next week and I will not go there again, too many memories. Miss you and Robert, are you two behaving up there- of course not!!!! Christine, Lisa, Fran and I will go to see your headstone, ask Martha to join us. We need closure.Rest with the angels and watch over us.

    Me

  98. Thanksgiving

    Dearest Joe: Tomorrow will be Thanksgiving, hope you are celebrating it in heaven with others. The girls want to put up the Xmas tree tonight, hope I do not lose it. Thinking of how we would get friends from the church and Robert to join us. Today is is cold and dark, it has been raining a lot. Sunday the church will have a memorial service I will remember you then.
    Have to go, give Robert, Simon and Toonsis my best.
    Rest with the Angels.

    Anonymous

  99. Today is lonely

    Dearest Joe:
    Having great problems dealing with what God is giving me. Wish I can speak with you and get ressured all will be well. Hope Simon is with you. Pray for us.

    Anonymous

  100. thinking of you

    Hey guy, just wanted to let you know that I was thinking about you my apple buddy. Miff got married-yeah!!! She seems really happy. Your light is still shining in all of us. I don’t know if you truly know how much you were loved by every one you touched. Send Carlos some strength and smile at me in the stars. Love you, D

    Devin T

  101. Missing you

    Today it is cold and rainy and depressing. Wish you were here to speak with. Hard time dealing with everything. Watch over me.

    Papi

  102. Missing you

    Dearest Joe: Having a hard time with everything and Connie’s death makes is worse. Please take care of him, send us a little message that things will OK for us down here.

    Papi

  103. Connie

    Joe: Connie joined you today. God I miss him already, but I know that you and he are up there in heaven. Please make him his Makers Mark and Coke, put in a video and talk. I will deal with Simon. God, I miss him and you so much. Rest with the angels.

    Papi

  104. Concerts

    Joe,
    This Sunday is my first concert of the season, and I missed bugging you and Dad to come. I hope that you take a minute or two on Sunday afternoon to just listen in, and know that we all miss you more than words can say. I think Martha’s about ready to kick Dad’s butt, so please send something good our way before he gets a swift kick in the pants! Xine

    Xine

  105. Missing you

    Joe, I have been meaning to write since Carlos gave me your new e-mail address. I just wanted to tell you how much I miss you. You were a very special personand I always felt good when I was around you. I know that we did not get to spend as much time together after I moved out of the neighborhood; but, I really have missed having you around. I will always remember the good times that we had and the fabulous parties that you threw. You were such a caring person. I love you and miss you very much.

    Bentley

  106. Hello

    Joe:
    Today it is cold. Halloween is around the corner, did not put up your witch candles or plastic pumkins you loved so much. Lonely and scared without you.

    Papi

  107. got a cup to write it on?

    You have really pissed me off by dying! You were always one of those people in my life that I could count on to be there to talk about those other people who had no class!!! Miff misses you too, she was stunned. I can’t believe I will never hear that Southern graceful cackle again. Thank you for lettingme into your life and loving me. You were an amazing friend and a spirit that drifted into my life just when I needed you. I will never forget you or Carlos. I am so glad that you found someone who loved you so completely and that you knew true happiness. Rest up my friend, because we are surely coming to join you someday. Love, with wooden teeth, Devin

    Devin T (hee-hee)

  108. Just a note

    Joe,
    I found a note you sent me last December in my pile of items to be shredded the other day. Being the packrat that I am, I hadn’t gotten around to shredding in a while. For some reason I happened to look at the stuff in my hand before sending it through the industrial shredder here at good old Riverwood, and I found your note. It was the one where you sent me the renewal card for Dad’s Architectural Digest magazine, and I just started crying so hard. I realized again that I’d have no more chances to try and call you on the sly to get help picking out a Xmas gift for Dad, or to have a great time at our annual exchange. I wish I had told you how I felt about you more often before you died, but that wasn’t my way. It is now, so if nothing else good comes of your death, just know I’m more open with my feelings. Please watch out for all of us down here. Xine

    Xine

  109. Touching base

    Dear Joseph:Hard to believe you are gone. The days are long, dull and silent without you. I am having a hard time getting thru life minute by minute. The church had its homecoming dinner last week. Martha and I cried in the Fellowship Hall. Peple tell me that the pain will lessen but it seems not to. Would love to see you dressed up for Halloween, like in the past. Watch over us down here.

    Papi

  110. miss you Joe

    joe,i keep thing i will get one of your late night call and i know we will talk again.friend are friend forever and i know god has called you home.. we all miss you and love you.I know you are looking over all of us ..

    randy

  111. A Ray of Sunshine

    I’ve been sitting here devastated, just thinking about what a ray of sunshine you were to anyone who had the pleasure of coming into your world, no matter how fleeting that time might have been. Whenever I come across someone who attends First, I always comment that they surely know Joe and Carlos. I was puzzled when some would say that they hadn’t met you guys. Now I know why. A friend attended services there last Sunday, and I told him to be on the lookout for you two…he said he didn’t see you. By chance, he had left the program from the service here at my house. As I was reading through it tonight, I came across the letter from Carlos. My heart sank. Your hugs and laughter when the couples would do dinner was always reassuring to me. You seem to realize just how shy I was and that was just fine with you. When we would get off to ourselves, you alowed me to be the little devil that you seem to know dwelled within. I’ll never forget the times that Bently and Steven, and Steve and I shared with you…some of my fondest memories from that time in my life. I’m sorry that I never did have you guys over to see the house and the artwork. I’ve finally come out of my shell and now it’s out for ALL to see. Maybe better late than never, but in this case, sooner would have been better. The love shared between you and Carlos was an inspiration to me. The friendship and the kindness that you always offered to me will never be forgotten…nor will you. I never told you how much you meant to me. I just told everyone else… I’m truly sorry for that…

    Eddie

  112. Missing you

    Dear Joseph:
    Today has been especially hard on me, have had so many days without sunshine,it was been cold, dark and wet. Have lost the urge to eat and cannot sleep, just want to speak with you. Each day is hard but I will get thru somehow, with the love and support of the church, our friends and my family. Joe you do not know the friends you made on earth and the love they had for you and the love and support they are giving me. Fran had an especially bad day this week missing you. Lisa still talks about you. Christine cried for you and brought me a book on grief, we are both reading it.
    Joseph, it is so hard dealing with the pain of your family’s denial of your life here. I wish they knew the love of the people here and the pain they are causing by their denial.
    Rest with the angels.
    Papi

    Papi

  113. Missing You

    The days and tears have been many since you left us but I still look for you to call. I miss you more than I thought possible. I’ve tried to help Carlos all I can but I’ve not been that much help. We just cry on each others shoulders! I hope you have some idea how much love I had for you. Halloween’s coming soon. Shall I wear our overalls and straw hat again? Or be more original in a BEAVER suit? Only you can understand what I’m saying. I love you baby boy!

    Beaver

  114. Carlos

    Hey Joe,Just wanted you to know that I think maybe Carlos is going to be alright. Keep your eye on him though. This has really been rough. I don’t think anybody thought you would really die, especially him. None of us could imagine that anything bad could ever happen to you. We will all see you again someday. Missing you in CA. Love,
    Kip

    Kip

  115. Missing you

    Dearest Joseph:
    This weekend was especially hard on me, it has rained and the sky was dark and the sense of isolation was bad. I wanted to talk and hold you, go to the movies or cook for you – bring back the past and our life – something to ease the pain and memories. I cannot go back to the house without crying. Hard to believe you have been gone less than three months, seems a lifetime. I was listening to Cher today I cried and laughed. Joseph you touched so many life in your final days. I have come at times to question my believe in God because of your death. I am trying and I know I will let go of the anger that is in me for some many reasons and so many people.
    Know that you are loved.

    Papi

  116. thinking of you

    I didn’t know you very well and therefore I’ve hesitated to write anything. However, what I do know is that I miss seeing you when I’m in at church. I miss seeing you and Carlos together. I used to see the two of you together and wish that I could be that happy and content with someone as you seemed to be with each other. I loved the fact that you put your relationship with God and the church into your personal relationship. As perfect as it is in heaven I’m sure it’s even more beautiful now that you’re there.

    Amy

  117. A Great Guy

    Joe, I will never forget the friendship you and Carlos shared with me. I knew no one in Atlanta when I moved there and you and Carlos extended your warm love and kindness to me making me feel that I had family there even though mine were in Houston.
    Thank you so much for your warm and caring personality and the love you extended to my family while I was hospitalized. My mom and entire family will never forget you and will deeply miss you. I’m just sorry I could not have been there with you in your final hours to let you know how much I loved you.

    Rick

  118. Missing You

    Joe,I was pressing through my phone book on the cell phone and your number came up on my speed dial. I wanted so badly to press call and have a Pastoral chat with you. You were always so supportive of First MCC and myself and I appreciated chats with you so much. You had a wonderful ablility to lift my spirit and make me laugh.
    So today my heart is chatting with you.
    Joe, I know you would be so proud of Carlos and his love for you. He has touched my heart with his strength and courage through everything.
    You would be proud of the church board and their efforts. Oh by the ways the refinancing is done and the new budget looks good.
    Joe, thanks for your work with the stewardship campaign this past year. I believe it made an impact. I think you will be proud of our efforts for the future.
    Obviously, you can tell I miss you. You are in my thoughts and dear to my heart. I know if you were looking for assignments in heaven you’d be first in line to be the guardian angel for First MCC. So in my heart, I see you watching the visitors come in on Sundays and you are there greeting each one. You are laughing and joking with Biff and Martha and giving Austin a hard time…You are there at the board meetings urging us on and in services you are encouraging us to worship and you are attentively listening to the sermon.
    Joe, you are here in spirit and in love…thanks for chatting today.
    Love you, and miss you,
    Pastor Paul, First MCC of Atlanta

    Pastor Paul

  119. i really miss you tonite

    I really miss you tonight. I was thinking about Christmas this year, and I realized we wouldn’t have any gift exchange at your and dad’s house this year. I can’t believe this is real. I still can’t believe that you are really gone. Why did you have to leave so soon? We had so much to look foward to. I see all of these stupid little things that make me think of you, like Easy Cheese, and I want to cry. I wish you were here. There are so many things that I wish I had said to you while you were here with us. I’m so sorry I didn’t tell you more often that I love you. I thought there would always be more time. I hope you know that you were so very special to me. It wasn’t all just fun and games. I really appreciated the way you cared for me and all of my family. I miss the way we used to laugh and make fun of Dad and all of the Sunday visits. I miss you. I love you Joe. I’m just sorry I didn’t say it enough while you were alive.

    Lisa

  120. Sunday

    Hey Joe,It’s sunday evening. Sitting around thinking about you. I had a good time with City Girl the other night (that sounds worse than it really is!). I took pictures of her and pretended that you were with me. I wish you were here to help me write captions for the scrap book. Even though you are not here, I still remember all of the good times we had together and I’ll make sure that I enjoy my life since none of us knows when it is our turn. Your dying has really made me wake up and realize just how short life is. You were my buddy and brother. I miss you.
    Kip

    Kip

  121. Love & miss you

    Hello Joe,We still miss you & I guess we always will. Our Hope celebrated its 3rd anniversary on August 10-11. And of course, I thought of you being at our first service! I even found pictures of you, Carlos & Barry collecting the offering!
    Though I LOVE pastoring, I think my most favorite experience of MCC ministry is still that Tuesday night Bible study group that you, Carlos, & so many others were a part of. I will forever miss that group–even as I miss you. My idea of heaven is being with good friends like you & NEVER having to say “good-bye”! I love you!

    Renee

  122. Cher

    Joe,
    Cher was in Atlanta for her farewell tour the other day, and I thought it only fitting that she say farewell to performing now that you’re gone. I hope that you were able to see every minute of that show and enjoyed every second. We miss you so much. There are so many times I want to call you, or send you an email to see what you’re up to, and it hurts all over again to realize you’re not there. I hate the permanence of this!
    Just wanted you to know I was thinking about you.

    Xine

  123. Thinking about you

    Was speaking with your family today and they knew a far different person than we did. They say they knew your secret yet they do not really want to acknowledge it. Suggested to your family members to attend a meeting of PFLAG, I know they will not. I am sending them some photos of you and Kay will get your camera. I will cease to communicate with them unless I hear from them. Joe I wish you had in life been honest, vocal and direct. Still the love we have for you outweights any regrets I and others may have about your paper mache/fake life with your family. I know you are in Heaven causing laughter, humor but most of all love.
    Miss you so much, sleep with the angels until we meet again.

    Me

  124. It's Tuesday :)

    Hey Joe,Thinking about you today. Remember when Lilly Tomlin said “Got on my Tuesday panties too but I guess you already knew that”? We laughed so hard watching that mess. Everytime I think of something funny I think of you. I also miss IMing you with stupid movie lines. I hope I see you again oneday. I can’t imagine that I won’t. Love you Joelene. 🙂
    Kip

    Kip

  125. We miss you

    Dearest Joe:
    Simon misses you, he is going blind, and walks slower but he is still you dog.
    Catherine has become the Queen of the House and is still carring the wide load sign on her backside.
    City Girl got arrested for drunk drinking, public indeceny, street walking, fowl mouth and other offenses.
    Shelly is looking for grease or a three person oyster shell

    Simon, Catherine, City Girl, Shelley

  126. Missing you

    Dearest Joseph:
    I am writing this letter to express my anger with you. I am angry that you are dead and I cannot care for you, hold you and comfort you. Your family has yet to accept your death and express in writing the love that they had for you. I have discovered that when people cannot accept all of a person’s life they will deny the real person. Joseph, your family ane especially you lived a falsehood, and I co-signed the lies. Papi you should have lived your life in the open and not fear the rejection of those who have yet to put their true feelings for you on this site and accept the total Joe. not the paper mache person you projected. Joseph you told me to be open with my family and friends yet you failed to do the same. We must remember the words – “the truth will set you free”, why didn’t you do as you told others to do? Your life on earth would have been easier for you. You would have been able to say and do as Martin Luther King Jr. said – “free at last, free at las – thank God o mightly, I am free at last”
    Rest with the angels, until we meet again.

    Papi

  127. You will never be forgotten

    Joe, I don’t even know how to begin to tell you how much you have changed my life. It just doesn’t feel the same without you. I miss you so much. The words seem so little. There is no way I can even begin thanking you for all that you have done, the way you loved openly and without prejudice, but most importantly being the person that you were. I know you will always look down from Heaven, watching after all of those whom you loved. Just know that you will live forever in our hearts. I love you, and miss you with all that is in me. Hopefuly I will meet you again one day in Heaven, but until then, know that you will always be in my heart.

    Lisa Calderon

  128. ....... We'll Miss You.......

    “Mr. Hopper” – the words friendship, loyalty, laughter and love is what comes to mind when I think of you. From the instant I ment you in Atlanta I knew you were the type of person who would be forever in my heart. You are a true inspiration to everyone and I can’t help but think are are an angel on our shoulders guiding us through our grief! We have not lost our friend — because true friendship such as yours will never die — but continue on in our hearts today and always.Love — “Ms Werner”

    Linda

  129. Saturday Night

    Hey Joe,It’s Saturday Night and I was thinking about how I wish I could call you and hear that ice tinkling in your glass. I miss our cut-up time. I’m having a drink to you by myself. Shelley got her nails painted red today and she looks like a hooker! 🙂 We got a couple of cats and named them Peggy and Patsy after Loretta Lynn’s daughters. I know you would think that is funny. They kind of remind me of Toonses and Catherine. They’re both grey tabbies. I was going through my closet today to find a shirt and it hit me that I will never get to talk to you or see you again. I just can’t believe it. I hate the permanence of this. I wish we could have seen each other again before you left. I’m gonna watch a John Waters film tonight. I’ll think about you everytime I laugh. Talk to you later.
    Love you,
    Kip

    Kip

  130. Missing You

    It still seems unreal that you are not with us in person anymore. It is difficult to comprehend and impossible to understand. Thank you for being such a good friend — for being patient with me about coming back to church. You are a big reason I came back — you showed me how much I missed my church family. I will never forget that wonderful gift. Thank you. You have left behind a big gap — I hope you have some understanding of that. (If you run into Reid up in heaven — I hope the two of you behave!)

    John Moore

  131. I miss you so much, Joe

    Joe,
    I have started this message to you in my head thousands of times, and yet everytime it feels like I’ve forgotten something. You were a great friend and a great person, and I thank my lucky stars that I was able to have you in my life, even if it wasn’t for very long.
    As you knew, I have my doubts about the existence of a God, especially now that someone with your love, compassion, humor and grace is gone at such a young age. However, if there is a God, I pray that she/he has made you whole, both in body and spirit, and that you are resting in Heaven amongst the angels.
    Please watch out for all of us, but most of all Dad, and know that we think of you every single day.
    With love,
    Xine

    Christine Calderon

  132. Today

    Hey Joe. I was thinking about you a lot today. I don’t think I will ever get used to this. City Girl is doing pretty good. I’m keeping her out of the gutter. You know how hard that is! Miss you.

    Kip

  133. Thanks for being a friend

    It does not seem real that you are gone. I still want to speak with you and joke with you. Why did God call you when you were so good, why didn’t he take someone who deserved death far more than you. I know that you are not in pain anymore rest well

    Anonymous

  134. Thanks for teaching me

    Joe:Since your death, I have spent many nights wondering why God would take a person as wonderful, kind and loving as you so early in life. A person’s life is not measured in years but what they do and leave in another person’s life. Some people come briefly in our life and leave us with nothing, others are in our life forever yet leave us nothing, but you entered into our lives briefly but left us everything – kindness, humor, faith, compassion but most of love. I will ask forgiveness of those I hurt, I will pardon unconditionally those who may hurt me, I will pratice patience and give all that I can but most of all I will make sure that I tell those who I love that I love them while I am alive so they will know it. During your life you were the most gentle, wonderful, compassionate and loving person God may have created. During your illness your faith in God grew stronger and you demonstrated your love and concern for others rather than yourself.
    I know that you rest with the Almight Creator and Earth is lesser for it, but Heaven is now rejoying with a new angel and his name is Joe Oren Harper III, but I know you want God to call you Papi.

    Papi

  135. FRIENDS FOREVER

    JOE, WORDS CAN’T EXPRESS HOW MUCH I MISSYOU. I KNOW YOU HAVE GONE TO A BETTER PLACE & SOMEDAY WE WILL SEE EACH ANOTHER
    AGAIN. I MISS OUR EVENINGS HAVING A COCKTAIL WATCHING LUCY THEN LEAVE IT TO
    BEAVER. SIMON IS DOING WELL GETTING A LOT OF ATTENTION ) LOVE YOU JOE

    ROBERT PRADO

  136. Friendship

    Joe you were always a true friend to not only to myself but a special friend to Robert Prado and for that I will always be thankful. We miss you greatly but know you are with God and other family/friends. I know you will be watching over us. Hopefully we will take a little something of you and make our ownlive’s better. You were a true person. One day we will all be together. Simon is doing great and is being watched over. He has become like our own but I know we will never replace you in Simon’s heart. Until we met again.

    Robert Joye

  137. Thanks for the love

    I miss you, you taught me patience, love, devotion and faith. You filled my life with laughter, you were more than a friend to me, I cannot express my sorry, loss and pain. I regret that you were could not share your love of life with everyone. I know you are with your mama and others in heaven making jokes and praising God. Rest with the angels until we meet again.

    carlos

  138. Late Night Calls

    Joe, Everytime the phone rings now, at night, I always think of you…waking me up, getting me to laugh, and then after an hour or so of talking…trying to fall back to sleep…I miss those calls…and you more and more…Love Ya Sis!!
    M.

    Mike

  139. What's going on?

    I miss you Joe. Who’s gonna help support my budding career now? Where’s my Trans Am? I promised myself I wouldn’t cuss on here so I’ll be good. I leave and go out to LA and then this happens. I’ll be back and you better be there. Tell Rebecca that I want my crown back!
    Love,
    City Girl

    City Girl

  140. Marilyn

    I don’t know if ya’ll noticed the picture of Joe as Marilyn but ain’t that a hoot?? It looks so real! we used to laugh at that picture so much. That’s not realy his body you know. 🙂

    Kip

  141. Hear Yee..Hear Yee

    Dearest Joe,You touched my life in an enormous way.By example, you taught me not only to how give love more freely but to receive love more freely as well. Most of all, you made me laugh at a time in my life when there was not much laughter.You are and always will be my dear and special friend. I love you and miss you with all my heart. Rebecca

    Rebecca Bailey

  142. Joe

    Only God above knows how much I miss you. Thank goodness for wonderful memories. Keep the phone lines open.My heart is broken. I love you!
    Martha

    Martha

  143. You were so special

    Even though we had only gotten to know each other a short time before you left us, I will cherish the times that we spent talking. The church yard sales will never be the same! Give God a hug for me.

    SissyClif

  144. Forever in my heart

    Joe, I wish I could have hugged you one last time. Please know that I love you and will miss you more than words can say. Everytime I fix a cocktail, I will toast to you! All of my love, Brooke

    Brooke Garrou

  145. Joe O Harper

    Miss you more than I can say. There is a huge empty hole in all our lives. Get the scoop on everthing in heaven because we will all want to know who is doing what and with whom.Miss you

    austin

  146. Joe o Harper

    Anonymous

  147. Joe O. Harper

    Miss you terribly and think of you ofter. I’ll neverhave another sister-woman like you. Love you Biff

    Biff Ryan

  148. just to say goodbye

    Joe you will be missed, but I know that you are in a better place and we shall all meet again in time.

    Nanu

  149. Like a Brother

    I will miss Joe terribly. He was like a brother to me. (and sometimes like a sister!) 🙂 I love you Joe.

    Kip

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